Last Friday I told Boy Toy to get into the Fort, and he did. But then we got into an argument. Nothing huge. I guess I was PMS-ing (no, PMS is not a myth) and I was SUPER emotional. In a “I’ll cry about anything and everything” kinda way. In a “Hold me because I’m feeling bad” kinda way. And Boy Toy? Even after almost 3 years together, he doesn’t quite know what to DO when I’m like that. Not that I haven’t told him. I have, over and over. It just seems that the whole concept, the whole situation, is so alien to him he still doesn’t quite grasp it. *sigh*

It didn’t become too bad, thankfully. I kinda sorta knew, in the back of my head, that this was just hormones talking. And he tries pretty hard, he’s slowly getting better.

Once he had left though, I realized that this might not be a good place for him to be in, emotionally. I put him in the Fort and then we argue… I took the key, which was hanging around my neck, and hung it on the bathroom door. At first, it was because I was frustrated. But then it was because I didn’t think I should keep him locked, given the circumstances.

When he got back home, I sat him down and I asked him if he felt uncomfortable being locked up, given that we’d had a little fight. I pointed towards the key and told him I’d left it there and that he should get out if he felt it was best.

I went to bed and he only joined me later. It took our shower together, later Saturday, for me to realize he was still in the device. I was surprised. But I took advantage of it to have him give go down on me, after the shower.

After that, he was acting kind of impatient. We had plans with friends later that day and both had lots to do. I decided to let him out of the Fort. I figured he’d be more comfortable to get his things done, and besides, I don’t think either of us really was into it at that point.

Oh well, I tried.

That’s right, some people are just that nice.

Earlier this year Tom started making some prototypes of stainless steel pins and spacers for the CB3000. He wants to start a line of stainless steel components and accessories for the CBx000 devices and sell them. I certainly hope he goes through with his plan. Imagine all the chastity geeks out there, wishing they had custom-made pieces for their device? Stainless steel pieces? Some of you are probably drooling already.

As it turns out, the locking pin for the CB3000 is the same shape and size as the pin for the Fort, so I was a good candidate to test-drive Tom’s prototypes. Or rather, Boy Toy was.

So without further ado, the pictures you probably all came here for.

Here’s the Fort with its original locking pin:

And here it is with Tom’s custom pin and spacer:

As you can see, it doesn’t stick out nearly as much. Thanks so much, Tom!

I fitted The Fort Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Device on him as soon as I got out. Then I had him stand in the corner for 10 minutes. “Prevention punishment”, I called it. To show him that I could and that he should take any threat of punishment seriously. He said I’d been reading too much online these days, to which I replied “Boy Toy, I’ve been reading online for 2 years.” This produced the expected, satisfying blush.

Sometimes, it’s good to be Boy Toy’s Owner.

I never knew she had managed to order it so I was surprised, to say the least. I did know I’d probably get no choice since she was really wanting the thing. Or maybe I was just counting my days until I was locked up for good, or something like that. But then I saw her holding The Fort in front of me. My initial thoughts of masturbating without her consent until she could finally order it were out the door, I felt it was too late. I felt fear then, knowing she had caught me off guard, before I could plan better, and that made me wet and excited inside. My owner was way, way over my head and knew how to outsmart me.

At first glance it looked like a CB, only fortified. In my mind, the fact that it’s made of steel brings forth the ‘inescapable’ factor: it’s not as if it can be easily removed with a grinder. In addition, it’s as if she is making this statement: “I want you really locked up and secure and submissive, I’ve decided I own you fully 24/7 and now we can start your training.” I also thought that after two weeks of this, she could totally control all the finances and decide I’d be paying for the Fort or any additional toys. Well, she makes more than me right now so I’m at a disadvantage in a way, since she can afford such things. This is kinda hot, for some reason.

Then there were other thoughts like “Is she gonna want me to be naked all the time to see her property in solid fashion accessory or to see her property all locked up, displayed for her?” and the eventual psychological effects that might come from being locked into it for a long time.

So I was kinda mind fucked right on the spot but after a little while I managed to pull myself together, thinking that she would want me to cum at some point, and I might have a chance to prevent the thing from being locked back on since I’d be out of it.

Intrigued a little as well, she easily coaxed me into trying it on only to jump at locking it. Hearing the lock close felt like an instant step towards subspace. And I thought “Holy fuck, this isn’t just plastic it’s like, urm… metal!!!”

After a few minutes of wearing the Fort, for some reason, I was overwhelmed by strange thoughts of wearing a collar with it and being a total slave boy to her. Maybe the fear of her having total control yet in another way was nice… Then I had other dark thoughts of more locking on of stuff for hours or weeks. I finally cleared my head when she asked me to get on the elliptical machine. I was wondering what she was up to, what she was planning or if she was fucking with my head while I was training with nothing on but this thing locked on me. I initially thought that from then on, she wanted me to train only on the elliptical, indoors, instead of going jogging outside, so that I could be naked all the time at home!

Let’s just say that later when I realized pull-out was possible, I kinda came a little closer to reality. Heh! Guess it’s not fair for her, I think she wanted to see the real effects of “No more orgasms at all” like it felt at first. The difference knowing I can pull out is, how can I explain… Knowing there is zero way out, was like : “Oh fuck, urm, we do things your way, no prob.” while knowing there is pull-out possibilities, it’s now “Ok, nice fashion accessory, I’ll try to deal with it.”

Please note that Boy Toy wrote this before we fitted the device with a chain around his waist, holding it up and preventing him from pulling out. I don’t think he’s laughing anymore

Boy Toy had mentioned it would need a kind of belt. He also told me that when he went for a walk while wearing the thing, the other day, he tied a string around his waist, passing it underneath the pins holding the two parts of the device together. This got me thinking. I didn’t want a string or leather belt, metal seems more secure to me. And it so happens that we have plenty of chains here. Then it struck me: why not try passing the pins that are attached to the tube through links in the chain?

I took out a fairly small and smooth piece of chain (I want him to be comfortable, after all!) and found larger, circular rings which I opened with pliers, passed through the last links in the chain and closed back up. I called Boy Toy over for a fitting and the result is pretty awesome!

Not only does it hold the chastity cage up, it also prevents him from being able to pull his cock out of the tube. Sure, he could easily cut the chain with pliers, but then he’d have to explain the broken chain to me… I feel much more confident that he is securely locked away, with the chain. And he was leaking profusely all over the place so obviously the psychological effect is back.

It did help with the comfort factor while wearing pants, as well. Boy Toy has always told me that he feels more comfortable not wearing pants, when in a chastity cage, because the pants push the device into him. With the Fort combined with the chain, though, it seems as if there is much less discomfort. He was quite amazed when he sat down and nothing “caught”.

The only drawback is that since the chain holds the device up, when Boy Toy put pants on, he had a quite noticeable bulge. Kinda looks like he has a hard-on, or a very fucking big cock. So yeah, I guess there might still be some more adjustments.

There’s another noteworthy thing which happened with the device lately. I mentioned we switched to the smallest ring and that it fit very nicely. However, one night, Boy Toy woke me up at 4 am telling me he was in pain. Apparently, this ring is just too tight for his nightly erections. We’ve now switched back to a slightly larger ring. With the chain around his waist, I think we’ve got the right fit.

Once we were done unpacking and examining everything, all that was left to do was put the device to the test. One thing that did not come in the box is an instruction manual. There was no indication anywhere as to which piece went where. Nothing.

Having used the CB6000 before, we were convinced we’d figure it out easily. I mean, we knew the tube goes over the penis, and the ring goes around the cock and balls (obviously). The spacers, however, turned out to be another story.

Boy Toy started putting things together but after 5 to 10 minutes, we still weren’t sure of how to proceed. A few more trials, and I went to get my laptop so I could check out the pictures on the Extreme Restraints website and see how they did it.

From the picture, it looks like this guy uses the big spacer just behind the padlock. I went on to read the device’s description and sure enough, there were what you could call directions for use: “The spacers can be used in various ways by positioning it in-between the cock ring and cage or on the outside. By using one or all 3 spacers most men should obtain a very good fit and not be able to pull through.”

As for the ring, I selected the one that was closest in size to the ring Boy Toy uses when he wears the CB6000.

We decided to arrange the spacers like the guy above because putting the big spacer in between the tube and the ring made for way too much space. But there’s one little problem with this configuration. The guy on the site is holding the device and it turns out it’s for a reason… The pins stick way out in the back!

Moving around a bit, trying the thing out, Boy Toy didn’t find the pins to be that bothersome, so we decided we’d see how it’d go. The other weird thing about this design is that if you use the big spacer on the outside like we did, the padlock kinda sticks way out. And it clonks when Boy Toy walks around! One thing’s for sure, I know where he is in the house when he’s in the Fort. Putting a rubber band around the padlock would probably fix this but we couldn’t get our hands on one at the time.

Other than that, Boy Toy initially found the device to be quite comfortable. He said it felt just like the CB6000, except heavier. I’m not sure what psychological effect the thing had on him but he sure seemed happy, last night. I followed him around the house, badgering him with questions. How did it feel, that it was stainless steel rather than see-through plastic? This made him blush and he suddenly realized that he couldn’t break out of this device, if worse came to worse. He looked scared. He told me the thing felt totally secure.

Then I decided to put it to a different test: I ordered Boy Toy to strip and had him climb on the elliptical trainer. I had him workout for 5 minutes. When he was done and I told him how comfortable he looked exercising in the device, he said that it’s wearing the chastity device with pants which usually causes a problem, as the pants will push the thing up into him.

He stayed in his new stainless steel chastity cage all through the night and apparently, he slept horribly. But to be fair, he usually sleeps baldy when he first starts wearing the CB and then he gets used to it. This morning, he started pushing down on the tube and managed to pull his cock completely out of the device! He was using the third ring in size. Since he could pull out, I had him change to the smallest ring. I had to leave for work shortly after so I made sure to hide a key in the house, and I instructed him to let me know should there be any unusual discomfort.

I received an email from him towards the end of the workday. He said he had several kinky dreams during the night and that the psychological aspects seemed to follow him into his dreams. He also told me that when he went out for a walk, he had to tie a string around his waist to hold up the Fort, as it was hanging down too much due to its weight. This caused the pins to poke into his skin while walking, which was very uncomfortable.

When I got back home, I asked him to cut and grind the pins, since he would never wear the device with the big spacer in between the tube and the ring. He obliged.

As you can see, the pins aren’t sticking way out anymore. But notice how low the device hangs? That’s due to its weight. It hangs so much that even with the smallest ring, Boy Toy managed to pull out of the thing. The picture below is proof.

He would probably have a damn hard time pushing his penis back in, so if he did pull out, maybe I’d find out. Maybe. Nonetheless, for me, this totally takes away the value of the device. Boy Toy says that there needs to be some sort of lockable belt to keep the device up higher. I guess that could work, and I’ve instructed him to find a solution, as an assignment. Needless to say, I’m disappointed.

However, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t consider the Fort Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Device. I mean, if Boy Toy could pull out of it, he can certainly pull out of the CB6000. I just don’t think he’s ever given it enough of a try, so he didn’t know he could. I imagine some men would not be able to pull out. No one’s made the same.

This cage does have its appeal. The stainless steel is definitely hot. It feels more solid and secure than transparent plastic. Its heaviness can be a drag but it can also act as a constant reminder that one’s cock is under lock. It’s comfortable, too, once you get rid of the extra lenght on the pins!

In the end, it’ a personal choice whether this is or isn’t the device for you. I’ve provided all the information I could. But stay tuned, I may yet publish a part 3 of my review, after we have really test driven the Fort.

Anyway, as mentioned previously, I ordered the The Fort Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Device from Extreme Restraints. It’s only my second time ordering from Extreme Restraints and I’d say everything went pretty smoothly. However, I must mention that I did enter my email address where it says “Mail me when this is in stock” on their site a while back but never got any email advising me that The Fort was back in stock. I just so happened to check, early one morning, and wonder of wonders, it was available. A couple of days only after I ordered, the device went out of stock again and it’s still unavailable as of now.

On the day I ordered, I received an email listing the item ordered, the amount and the shipping/billing addresses, as well as a second confirmation email with the order numbers. A little later that day, I received an email from UPS to notify me that they had received the electronic shipment information for my order from XR, LLC, which is how Extreme Restraints calls themselves on credit card statements, boxes, etc., for privacy’s sake. They provided a tracking number and the date of the scheduled delivery. I seem to remember this email saying I’d get my order by November 17, but now that I look again, I realize it says November 16, which turned out to be correct.

So shipping went well. But I do have a beef with the $88 import charges UPS requested upon delivery of the box. I mean, Extreme Restraints already charged me shipping fees. Add that to the price of the device ($249) and that comes to quite a chunk off the wallet. Or purse, in my case. For the record, here is what Extreme Restraints has to say about shipping internationally (because no, I am not in the US): “Orders over $200 are shipped through UPS with rates starting at $40. At checkout you will be given the exact shipping costs and options. Most orders will arrive within 1-2 weeks and will be not charged a customs fee by the receiver’s government. Occasionally some packages will be stopped/delayed by customs and a custom fees may apply. Please note that we do not issue refunds for seized items not returned to us by customs.” Whether I was supposed to be charged custom fees or not is unclear, as there seems to be a typo. Whatever, when Boy Toy emailed me today to tell me I had received a package and he had had to pay 88$ COD, I was not a happy camper. Extreme Restraints people, if you read this, perhaps you should warn your customers more directly, or use a different shipping method?

The box was quite small. UPS website said it weighted 1 lbs. Once opened, it revealed a second, smaller box (which seemed a little beaten, but not too badly considering how far it had to go), a bit of packing paper and an Extreme Restraints catalog which held a little sample pack of lube. The smaller box contained the device, of course. It includes the tube, five rings, the pin to hold the ring and tube together, and 3 spacers (2 small, 1 large). Each piece was individually wrapped in plastic, with the pin and spacers together in a little ziplock baggie.

According to the Extreme Restraints website, the tube measures 4″ in length, 1.5″ in width and 1.25″ inside diameter. I felt the inside of the tube with my fingers, knowing Boy Toy would be putting a very sensitive body part in there, and found it to be quite smooth. The inside of the tube doesn’t look quite as shiny as the outside of the thing, but who cares, right?

The Fort comes with 5 differently sized rings, all made out of heavy stainless steel. They are hinged, which makes it easy to put on, as we soon found out. When Boy Toy saw all those rings, he said “No wonder the thing’s so expensive!” And no wonder the box is so heavy for its size, too. Perhaps the seller could offer the possibility of ordering only one or two rings with the device? Just a thought.

We took out the CB6000 for comparison.

As you can see, they are very similar devices. One has to wonder if there aren’t issues with the creators of the CB line? In fact, I wonder why the creators of the CB never made a stainless steel device before. Stainless steel is so much sexier than plastic…  But that’s my opinion, and I digress. The tubes are very similar in shape and size, with the Fort being a little chunkier and perhaps shorter. I’d have to check the actual measurements to be sure. Both devices work pretty much the same way, with a ring around the cock and balls, and pins and spacers to hold together the tube and ring, using a padlock to secure the whole.

With the Fort Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Device thoroughly examined, all that was left to do was try it on Boy Toy. And that’s exactly what we did. I’ll tell you all about it in part 2 of my review, along with more  images of the Fort!

I wonder if customs will search the box, and if they do, what they’ll think?

It’s amazing that Boy Toy still has no clue what’s coming his way. When it came back in stock, my first reaction was to let him know it was available, before even ordering the thing. I tried to cover for it by saying I didn’t think I could afford it. Then a few days later, it went back out of stock and I made sure to tell him! He seemed relieved, the poor thing.

A few days ago, we were checking out some of my stats together and he opened the RSS feed reader, which lists my recent post titles along with the first few lines. Right at the top of the page was my November 17 post and its first line: “That’s when I should receive the new Fort Stainless Steel Locking Chastity Device I ordered from Extreme Restraints.” He sat there staring at the screen so long, I was convinced he’d read that. He made no comment though, and I didn’t bring it up…

Later this week, I ordered some books online. They arrived within 2 days (gotta love that!) and since Boy Toy works from home, he was there to get the door when the package was delivered. Once it arrived, I told him he’d have to get the door for a second package either Friday or Monday and he had no reaction whatsoever. I thought his lack of curiosity strange. How could he not be nervous about my expecting a mysterious package? I felt so torn! I almost told him about what I’d ordered, right then and there.

But I waited, and today when he mentioned how he had to work downstairs Thursday to make sure he didn’t miss the delivery guy for the books, I reminded him that he’d have to do that again Monday. Once again, no reaction whatsoever.  So I looked at him and said “You aren’t curious at all, are you?” When he asked what he should be curious about and I told him the package,  he looked up and said: “Yeah, you’re expecting more books, aren’t you?” I couldn’t keep a straight face. I smiled, said “yeah” and just walked into the bathroom to cover my sudden amusement.

Now, this leaves me in a bit of a quandary. I loved the idea that when the package arrived, he’d be worried about it all day but if he thinks it’s books… What should I do? I was thinking of instructing him to email me as soon as the box arrives, and then I could tell him to open it and put it on. Or… Anyone has a better idea? I’m looking for whatever has the strongest effect on him.

Boy Toy doesn’t know I ordered it*. I told him it was back in stock, Friday morning, and he acted shocked and scared. While he was already at his computer upstairs, I placed the order. Then I went to see him and told him I didn’t know if I should order it or not, I didn’t think I could afford it, etc. I’ve said this a few times since, going on about how much I wanted the thing and too bad it was so much money. I’m pretty sure he’s totally clueless, and that’s absolutely great because he’ll be home when the package arrives, while I’ll be at work. I wonder if he’ll open the box, or stare at it all day and worry about its content.

I can’t wait!

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*Although Boy Toy knows very well I keep this blog, he rarely, if ever, reads it. He sometimes checks out my HNTs.

But a little intro for starters. I tell of the first time I ever locked up Boy Toy, here. This first experience was full of  the excitement and attraction of the new. I remember getting quite wet simply from having him locked up. Fun times! Back then, he could barely take a few hours of lock-up time. It wouldn’t take him long to start begging…

Now is a different story. He can easily go a week or two without showing much effect. I think it’s all show, though. As soon as he gets in the chastity device, he normally starts having kinky dreams. And I believe he gets wet quite a bit but just doesn’t tell me. Of course, I don’t tease him as much as I did that first time. I really should tease him more.

As for my reasons for locking him up, in the beginning it was simply for the fun of it, because it was available – he owned a device – and he seemed really, really scared of it. I wanted to see what effect it had on him. I probably wanted to show him I could be kinky, too! At any rate, it really was a game.

As time passed by, my reasons changed. I knew just how subby and desperately horny he becomes when wearing the device and I sought this. Sometimes probably for the wrong reasons: because we’d been having a rough patch and I wanted to have fun with him, so we’d feel closer and all. Thing is, the chastity game is in the mind and it’s a pretty vulnerable place to be, for the one who’s locked up. It took me a long time to really grasp this. It only really became clear to me very recently. If you read other kinky blogs online, you may have noticed they sometimes talk of the responsibility of the dominant partner towards the sub. Well, this qualifies: chastity play is just that, a game. If it stops being fun for either partner, then it should be stopped.

The claims you may read online about male chastity being a relationship “solution” or that it will save a marriage after the man has cheated are full of shit, if you ask me. “Secure your relationship”?!? I don’t buy any of that. I mean, come on! And by the way, what is up with declaring that masturbation is wrong? I just don’t get it. I don’t let Boy Toy masturbate, true, but that’s just because I like to have this control over him, not because I feel threatened in any way by his self-love habits. It’s just NOT THE SAME THING, so there’s no competition between the two acts. My opinion.

But anyway, back to the business at hand. Here are some ideas of how you can get your man to lock up his meat:

1-Trick him! Invent some story about needing this on him for a sexy photoshoot, for instance. Then hide the key when he isn’t looking. Make sure you have a hiding spot, first.

2-Tie him up! This would work especially well if he had no idea you have a chastity device. I strongly suggest you test the terrain first and make sure he finds the idea of chastity play hot. Then get him to play bondage with you, and surprise him!

3-Win it! Make a bet with him, or play some game to win the right to do whatever you want to him.

4-Deal for it! The first time I locked him up, he accepted to do it if I wore nothing but boots… Hell, yeah!

5-Order him to! If he’s anything like my Boy Toy, he’ll do it.

6-Get him to agree to it! It’s actually an extremely fun and sexy game, a treat, as Rika explains so well here. You could also tell him how wild, kinky and “out there” it is. What guy doesn’t dream of kinky sex stuff?

7-Make it part of a contract! If he agrees to sign a contract of submission to you, if he finds this idea hot, make sure one of the points says he will put on a chastity device any time you tell him to.

8-Some men will make it easy for you and ask you to be locked up. It seems to be an increasingly “popular” fetish.

9-Tempt him! You could try leaving it in plain view, with an open lock. What do they say again? Oh, yes: curiosity killed the cat!

10-… I don’t think I can think of a 10th way to get him to put on a cage! Oh well, 9 out of 10 ain’t bad

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PS: Boy, is there a lot of crap on the interweb about chastity! The christian “pure love” stuff scares me especially.