Let’s do a bit of a “beginner” an educational type post, shall we? Boy Toy and I were talking about the CB6000 tonight and he jokingly suggested that I list, on my blog, 10 ways to get your man to wear a chastity device. I replied that I didn’t think I knew 10 ways to do that, but the challenge intrigued me. So here I am, we’ll see what I can come up with! After all, Google is my friend…

But a little intro for starters. I tell of the first time I ever locked up Boy Toy, here. This first experience was full of  the excitement and attraction of the new. I remember getting quite wet simply from having him locked up. Fun times! Back then, he could barely take a few hours of lock-up time. It wouldn’t take him long to start begging…

Now is a different story. He can easily go a week or two without showing much effect. I think it’s all show, though. As soon as he gets in the chastity device, he normally starts having kinky dreams. And I believe he gets wet quite a bit but just doesn’t tell me. Of course, I don’t tease him as much as I did that first time. I really should tease him more.

As for my reasons for locking him up, in the beginning it was simply for the fun of it, because it was available – he owned a device – and he seemed really, really scared of it. I wanted to see what effect it had on him. I probably wanted to show him I could be kinky, too! At any rate, it really was a game.

As time passed by, my reasons changed. I knew just how subby and desperately horny he becomes when wearing the device and I sought this. Sometimes probably for the wrong reasons: because we’d been having a rough patch and I wanted to have fun with him, so we’d feel closer and all. Thing is, the chastity game is in the mind and it’s a pretty vulnerable place to be, for the one who’s locked up. It took me a long time to really grasp this. It only really became clear to me very recently. If you read other kinky blogs online, you may have noticed they sometimes talk of the responsibility of the dominant partner towards the sub. Well, this qualifies: chastity play is just that, a game. If it stops being fun for either partner, then it should be stopped.

The claims you may read online about male chastity being a relationship “solution” or that it will save a marriage after the man has cheated are full of shit, if you ask me. “Secure your relationship”?!? I don’t buy any of that. I mean, come on! And by the way, what is up with declaring that masturbation is wrong? I just don’t get it. I don’t let Boy Toy masturbate, true, but that’s just because I like to have this control over him, not because I feel threatened in any way by his self-love habits. It’s just NOT THE SAME THING, so there’s no competition between the two acts. My opinion.

But anyway, back to the business at hand. Here are some ideas of how you can get your man to lock up his meat:

1-Trick him! Invent some story about needing this on him for a sexy photoshoot, for instance. Then hide the key when he isn’t looking. Make sure you have a hiding spot, first.

2-Tie him up! This would work especially well if he had no idea you have a chastity device. I strongly suggest you test the terrain first and make sure he finds the idea of chastity play hot. Then get him to play bondage with you, and surprise him!

3-Win it! Make a bet with him, or play some game to win the right to do whatever you want to him.

4-Deal for it! The first time I locked him up, he accepted to do it if I wore nothing but boots… Hell, yeah!

5-Order him to! If he’s anything like my Boy Toy, he’ll do it.

6-Get him to agree to it! It’s actually an extremely fun and sexy game, a treat, as Rika explains so well here. You could also tell him how wild, kinky and “out there” it is. What guy doesn’t dream of kinky sex stuff?

7-Make it part of a contract! If he agrees to sign a contract of submission to you, if he finds this idea hot, make sure one of the points says he will put on a chastity device any time you tell him to.

8-Some men will make it easy for you and ask you to be locked up. It seems to be an increasingly “popular” fetish.

9-Tempt him! You could try leaving it in plain view, with an open lock. What do they say again? Oh, yes: curiosity killed the cat!

10-… I don’t think I can think of a 10th way to get him to put on a cage! Oh well, 9 out of 10 ain’t bad

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PS: Boy, is there a lot of crap on the interweb about chastity! The christian “pure love” stuff scares me especially.