The dominion over something more physically powerful than yourself is a heady thing, indeed. Now you can understand why men love driving monster trucks and construction equipment

In our case – not saying that everybody thinks this way – her desire to keep me locked up makes me feel even more sexy and virile, because I think of myself as something powerful that needs to be controlled.

And since she’s been back from her trip, she’s been telling me that she finds me wearing the cage to be very sexy; admittedly, I have sometimes felt a bit embarrassed about walking around in front of her with it, but knowing that she likes the look just adds to my self-perception. Lately, I’m feeling as sexy as hell!

That’s why I was so taken with Tom’s post, it shed light on this, it made me think, and it felt right.

But I’ll say this to Ranat: You’re probably right. I haven’t really run across that attitude much myself and perhaps I wrote of it too quickly. I kinda tend to think it IS a common attitude, but perhaps I’m wrong. Still, for me, the important part here was Tom’s take on it, the control over a strong, virile man. The rest is just something I thoughtlessly imagined to be the way of the majority. All I knew was that it didn’t resonate with me.

Perhaps I notice it more because I’m more sensitized to it, being the one who is actually locked up most of the time. Or perhaps because I tend to read more groups directly related to chastity. But if you have not run across this very often, consider yourself fortunate.

I should let Sandy read this and Toms post. She tends to associate CBs with the more negative connotations.

M

Strangely, the general rule seems to be that people like and value the person they’re having sex with, and want to be liked and valued in turn.