Comments on: Kinky sex, emotions and stuff http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/ Ramblings of a playful girl Fri, 30 Jul 2010 19:04:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: MyKey http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3994 MyKey Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:05:13 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3994 Its so hard to know what the right thing is to do. My inclination is to say to push it, but equally I know how much I need Sandy to show her need for me. Especially so when we were going through hard times. If it all comes from you it doesnt meet that need. However you work it out, good luck and remember that he does love you and need you. M x Its so hard to know what the right thing is to do. My inclination is to say to push it, but equally I know how much I need Sandy to show her need for me. Especially so when we were going through hard times. If it all comes from you it doesnt meet that need.

However you work it out, good luck and remember that he does love you and need you.

M x

]]> By: Elle http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3969 Elle Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:37:28 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3969 Web, that's what I thought too. I know he's stressed and busy, and I respect that. I thought if I make it happen, and make sure it doesn't take too much time, then maybe it'd help him wind down. Seems like I was wrong, or didn't do it right, or picked the wrong thing... Hmm think I'm getting ahead of myself, I haven't posted about this yet. Will do soon though. Web, that’s what I thought too. I know he’s stressed and busy, and I respect that. I thought if I make it happen, and make sure it doesn’t take too much time, then maybe it’d help him wind down. Seems like I was wrong, or didn’t do it right, or picked the wrong thing…

Hmm think I’m getting ahead of myself, I haven’t posted about this yet. Will do soon though.

]]> By: web http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3968 web Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:29:43 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3968 As a sub myself, i find that when i am busy and stressed is when i need my partner to come in and make it happen. It actually relieves some of the stress and takes some pressure off. Just a thought :) As a sub myself, i find that when i am busy and stressed is when i need my partner to come in and make it happen. It actually relieves some of the stress and takes some pressure off.

Just a thought :)

]]> By: Elle http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3958 Elle Wed, 17 Jun 2009 02:06:18 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3958 Nolens Volens: I'm trying, I'm trying... Lilly: Exactly. If I'm feeling confident, I can make him do what I want just because I won't back down. He's doing it, and that's it. If I'm not feeling confident, I'll think he won't do as I say even before I've said anything, and I'll feel rejected, unwanted, etc. Vixen: I don't like the planning ahead idea that much either because I like spontaneity, and because who knows, maybe I won't feel up for it when the time comes... And yeah. I suck at that part. I'm too nice and easy going, I don't punish the bratty boy. Nolens Volens: I’m trying, I’m trying…

Lilly: Exactly. If I’m feeling confident, I can make him do what I want just because I won’t back down. He’s doing it, and that’s it. If I’m not feeling confident, I’ll think he won’t do as I say even before I’ve said anything, and I’ll feel rejected, unwanted, etc.

Vixen: I don’t like the planning ahead idea that much either because I like spontaneity, and because who knows, maybe I won’t feel up for it when the time comes…

And yeah. I suck at that part. I’m too nice and easy going, I don’t punish the bratty boy.

]]> By: Vixen http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3952 Vixen Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:52:16 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3952 <i> .....insecurity and domination</i> is my problem often times. I'm working really hard to get over my insecurities. I'm so much more 'fun' when I do. LOL I def think talking to him is a good idea. Get his input so you know how to approach things. Planning ahead, like he mentioned is not the best idea, IMO anyway. But I cringe at 'planned' sex/kink. I LIKE just going over to PC and whispering what I want to do to him and DOING it. And. IMO, part of you being the dom and him the sub is that you *should* be able to go over to him and make him stop what he is doing for YOUR needs. And if he doesn't, he should be punished. ;) In theory at least. I suck at this part too sometimes. You show growth though in your realizations. Hehe …..insecurity and domination is my problem often times. I’m working really hard to get over my insecurities. I’m so much more ‘fun’ when I do. LOL

I def think talking to him is a good idea. Get his input so you know how to approach things. Planning ahead, like he mentioned is not the best idea, IMO anyway. But I cringe at ‘planned’ sex/kink. I LIKE just going over to PC and whispering what I want to do to him and DOING it.

And. IMO, part of you being the dom and him the sub is that you *should* be able to go over to him and make him stop what he is doing for YOUR needs. And if he doesn’t, he should be punished. ;)

In theory at least. I suck at this part too sometimes.

You show growth though in your realizations. Hehe

]]> By: Lilly http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3945 Lilly Mon, 15 Jun 2009 10:42:51 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3945 I experienced a lot of this with my prior (and only) sub bf. My ability to dominate factored solely on my self-confidence level and my emotional level. I'm the same way as you though. whenever R gets a busy patch with work, I end up feeling like shit. Feeling unwanted. He won't have as much time to chat throughout the workday. And I get paranoid. It's ridiculous!! My logical brain knows its silly and he's JUST busy and it's nthing to do with me. But my heart doesn't. I experienced a lot of this with my prior (and only) sub bf. My ability to dominate factored solely on my self-confidence level and my emotional level.

I’m the same way as you though. whenever R gets a busy patch with work, I end up feeling like shit. Feeling unwanted. He won’t have as much time to chat throughout the workday. And I get paranoid. It’s ridiculous!! My logical brain knows its silly and he’s JUST busy and it’s nthing to do with me. But my heart doesn’t.

]]> By: Nolens Volens http://www.kinkunleashed.com/2009/06/14/kinky-sex-emotions-and-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-3942 Nolens Volens Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:02:43 +0000 http://www.kinkunleashed.com/?p=352#comment-3942 You are growing up by recognizing and accepting his limits. :) You are growing up by recognizing and accepting his limits. :)

]]>