Emotions often make me shy away from “playing” with Boy Toy. I mean, for example, if I find that Boy Toy hasn’t been paying me, his alleged Owner, enough attention and I’m feeling bad about it, the thought sneaks up on me: I could simply put him in the CB6000, keep him in there a few days, maybe a week or a month, and see how his attitude is then.

My gut feeling is that this isn’t right, and so I don’t do it. Many a time, I’ve refrained from putting him in the device (or any similar mistreatment) because I had some sort of emotion attached to the situation.

Yet… it would work, wouldn’t it? Put Boy Toy in a chastity device and trust me, he becomes a much sweeter, loving boyfriend. What girl doesn’t want an attentive lover? 

The problem, I’d say, lies with the intention behind the order. I wouldn’t be playing Dom, would I? I’d be doing it to satisfy something else. I think.

My thoughts on the matter are not completely formed. So far, I’ve been going with the assumption that feelings don’t mix too well with D/s. Well, to an extent. If you love and care about your partner, I believe the D/s dynamic will be all the hotter. Good feelings are good. Just as bad feelings are bad.

Unless… one could get a positive outcome out of it? If Boy Toy in a CB6000 is more attentive (while super horny and loving it) and I am happier, is this wrong? Actually, I touched the whole “using D/s to resolve a problem” thing in a recent post:

I tried using D/s to resolve a problem. Well, not a problem per say, but a situation which, in my opinion, could improve. I thought it was a good idea; Boy Toy gets all subby and turned on when I order him around. But when this didn’t work, I got upset because things didn’t improve AND because Boy Toy didn’t obey. We got into an argument over it. And on top of everything, the next day, I punished him for it! I called it discipline, but I’m pretty sure my frustrations had a lot to do with it. 

Yeah. So when I wrote this, seems I was pretty sure it was a big no-no. But what if we had communicated about it better and I hadn’t gotten upset when it didn’t work? Couldn’t it be a fun, sexy way to improve on certain situations?

Putting aside my obvious lack of control when it comes to my emotions… I’ve laid down a few thoughts here but I’m interested in knowing what YOU all think about it.