Given the subject matter of my blog, I assume many or most of my readers know what a BDSM checklist is. But I didn’t, when I first started seeing Boy Toy.

For those of you who might not know, a BDSM checklist is a list of sexual activities related to sadism and masochism, power play, fetishes, kink… There are different lists out there (for instance, here, here and here), but the bottom line is that for each activity, one must indicate their level of experience and their willingness to explore it – or not.

These checklists are usually filled out by submissives and given to potential Doms. I believe the idea is to help along with pre-play negotiations. From what I’ve read online, it is suggested for the Dom to fill one out as well, and then compare lists to see if both players are compatible.

That’s not really how it happened with Boy Toy and I. He’s the one who mentioned the thing to me in the first place, since I didn’t know about it. I wanted to know what he liked, kinky sex wise, and he’s not one to just enumerate his kinks in a casual conversation. I’ve bothered him with this many times, and the best he can come up with is: “It’s no fun if I just tell you, better if you find out.” Humph. Read the rest of this entry »