Ever since I started down the kinky road, I’ve been resistant to calling myself a “Domme”. I just shied away from the term, I couldn’t be a dominant, not me! Such a weird thing, too, as Boy Toy is obviously submissive and I’ve known this all along. If you’ve read how we play, you might have noticed the roles are pretty clearly defined.

As a side note, I just wanted to mention that I never know if I should use the term “Domme” or “Dom”. And strangely enough, just as I was pondering this, I noticed roo-roo talks about it in his most recent post. As usual, he makes good, sensible points, so you might want to stop by if the question interests you. As for me, I’ll just stick with the excuse that my first language is French, and so naturally, I feminize the word. And French is probably the right excuse, considering what Wikipedia has to say on the subject:

The term “domme” (pronounced /ˈdɒm/) is a coined pseudo-French female variation of the slang dom (short for dominant). It stems from the Latin words “dominus” = master, “domina” = mistress. The pronunciation is identical to the term “dom”, by analogy to one-syllable French-derived words like femme or blonde. Read the rest of this entry »