Last week, I received an interesting email from Unspeakable Axe telling me he had a post idea for me. “I only have the title”, he said: ”How the hell my submissive lucked out and became owned by me and how you can find someone like me?”

Good question, Axe, good question. I was at Boy Toy’s when I read this email and of course, I immediately asked him how he thought he got to be owned by me. He gave me this very inspiring and eloquent answer: “I don’t know. I just got lucky.”

So much for that.

Still, over the last few days, I’ve given the matter some thought. The truth is, I believe Boy Toy and I are where we are today because we started pretty much like any other, normal relationship, and we fell in love. The elements of kink, or D/s, that we do have in our relationship now were introduced gradually, and our communication about such things was always open. I mentioned this in my very first post:

But Boy Toy told me from the start what he was into. He wanted to be straight with me, and avoid my learning this about him from other people, too. He was also very respectful. He was so scared of pushing me into something I didn’t want that I almost had to trick him into sleeping with me, in the beginning. Ok, ok, I didn’t “trick” him, but I kind of had to push him into it a little. And we started with good old regular sex, of course.

But the fact of the matter was, I knew what he was into, and, as they say, curiosity killed the cat. We talked a lot about kink. And it was fun, it was playful and naughty. And it felt like we had this dirty little secret, it created this complicity between us. Read the rest of this entry »