I’m back!
• December 5th, 2008 • by Elle
I have been hesitant to be dominant with Boy Toy for the last few weeks. There's been the recent head butting, but it's not just that. He's been undertaking new work projects and since he really wants this to succeed, he works a LOT. He's so tired and stressed... How can I, in good conscience, make him submit to me? He probably needed the break.
But at the same time, when done well, it's good for us. It refocuses him, for lack of a better word. I'm still not sure if the "timing" thing is all in my head, if he'd melt no matter when I do it. But I kinda think I need to follow my gut feeling on this one.
Some of you might be thinking, "Yeah but, it should be about what YOU want!" Maybe. But that's not how I dominate him. For me, it's all about the effect my actions have on him. If he hates it or gets angry, it won't turn me on either.
All this to say, it had been a while.
Boy Toy invited me over for supper, tonight. I went there straight after work, a rare thing for a week night. It was nice, we had a good meal and pleasant conversation. There might have been some remnant of tension between us, I'm not sure. Maybe it was just that we were both hungry. After food, the atmosphere seemed more relaxed.
We snuggled on the couch and talked a little. He said he needed a smoke and I gave him my usual answer: "You know what you have to do." So he closed all the curtains, stripped and kneeled in front of me. Delicious.
"So, what about that red silk?" I asked. I saw him snap to attention. He knows those are the trigger words. He looked me in the eye for a minute, until I said "Did it work?" He said he thought it did, then asked what it was supposed to do exactly. I told him it was supposed to make him feel more submissive, and aroused. "Wow, that's pretty freaky", he said. But then we reflected that his position, kneeling naked in front of me, could also be the cause.
"You always say the words when I'm in this position", he remarked. Well, yeah. Best be able to gauge his reactions, right? The part that surprised me, though, was that throughout all this, a deep, wet throbbing had started down in my pussy.
Once he was finished his cigarette, he got up and reached for his pants. But he had a moment of hesitation and finally, asked me if he could get dressed again. Silly boy, he should know better than to ask me that! And so, he remained naked. I, of course, was still fully dressed.
We sat back down on the couch. Then he went to the bathroom and I suddenly had an idea... I went and got the CB6000 out of the toy box, which wasn't very far. I laid it on the couch, where Boy Toy was sitting, and sat back down, doing my best to look innocent.
I already knew how he would react, but still, it was priceless. He walked out of the bathroom and started back towards the couch. Then he stopped dead in his tracks and let out a little yelp.
He didn't say anything. He sat right back where he was before, staring at the thing. Then he said "How did you get this out so fast?" I just laughed, saying that locks weren't the only thing I was good at. A minute later, I asked him what he was waiting for. And so he put it on. I took the key out of my purse (I always have it with me) and tested it on the lock, before locking him in. One's never too safe, right?
Boy Toy sat back down and I stood before him, looking down at his sprawled naked body. I reached down and stroked his balls, while he just looked me in the eye, doing his best not to react. I think he was trying not to give anything away. "But what if we want to have sex?", he said. I imagine he got that idea from the fact that I had started unbuttoning my pants.
"Ah but there's your tongue", I told him.
I instructed him to lie back down, and gingerly put a knee on each side of his face. A fellow blogger, Marianne, once wrote of her first face-sitting experience. How did she put it? Ah, yes: "His face was a thing that I was using for my pleasure, my own personal ecstasy." And that's what I did to Boy Toy. I straddled his face until I came. Hard. Twice.
Yeah. I’m a big fan too.
And then I told him it was time he went back to work. "I'm going to leave, now, and I'm taking that key with me. Ok? Don't worry, I'll be back tomorrow night. No, I don't know when I'll let you take it off."
Sleep tight, Boy Toy. Sweet dreams.
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Edit: I forgot to mention the feel of his hands, all over my body, while I was straddling his face. Stroking, petting, cupping... God. Wow.
Category: Kinky stuff, Toys | 
15 Comments »
December 5th, 2008 at 12:51 am
While I’ve never experienced chastity, you certainly make a good salesperson for the experience.
December 5th, 2008 at 11:03 am
Hmm. Sounds like you’re back in the groove.
December 5th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Mmmmmmm That’s just plain hot! Queening is one of the most sexylicious things ever, but combined with chastity……yowza.
“Some of you might be thinking, ‘Yeah but, it should be about what YOU want!’”
I think that’s nothing more than internet wanker mentality. A d/s relationship involves mutual satisfaction. If it’s all about one person, it won’t last. You seem to understand that, but I have to take a shot at this every time I see it mentioned. It’s one of my 3,296.4 pet peeves.
December 5th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
Oooh.
You’re not only cute, you have an evil streak, too.
Hot scenario running through my mind at the moment
December 5th, 2008 at 6:33 pm
WooHoo… Having fun again, right Elle? You know you have my attention too. AND you have Tom inspired! Go Girl!
December 5th, 2008 at 7:52 pm
Axe: Chastity is a funny thing. The “subject” (or shall I call him victim?) gets aroused by forced lack of sex… So, you buying?
roo-roo: Yup, if we’re gonna have an actual relationship yet still do some of that D/s stuff, it’ll only work if we both like it, even if we call him “submissive”. He’s not submissive because he hates it now is he?
You and your pet peeves
(it’s cute!)
Tom: Cute with an evil streak? Must be cuz I’m female
GreyOwl: Yup, having fun! He’s still locked in as we speak, actually. I’m not sure yet when I’ll let him out…
December 6th, 2008 at 10:20 pm
if he is anything like me, unless he is in a really bad mood, actively taking an interest and dominating him is the best thing you could have done. Locking him away however, thats just plain cruel. I hope you show some mercy and let him out within the next month or two, haha.
Shall I stop stirring now?
December 7th, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Have to agree with MyKey — if he was feeling stressed, dominating him was probably exactly what he needed. Being dominated can really take you outside of yourself, make you feel like someone else is taking over the pressure.
Thanks for the reminder about face-sitting. God… now that I’ve experienced it, I can’t get enough. Wow is right.
December 7th, 2008 at 9:31 pm
MyKey: See, he’s stressed, and yeah, I think that’s just a bad idea. I HAVE tried to make him do things before at such times and he just gets angry
As for the CB, he’s been out since Friday night. Yes, I’m that nice.
marianne: I’m not so sure, see my reply to MyKey. But I could give it a try… I think it’ll be easier to determine what works best when I live there. For now, I just don’t get to see enough how he’s doing and what effect my instructions have.
Ah, yes, face-sitting. This morning I told him he was to be my stool… LOL
December 9th, 2008 at 4:22 pm
I’m liking the way you play!
LadyP x
December 9th, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Thanks, ladypandorah. I’m liking that kind of play, too
December 14th, 2008 at 4:24 am
Hey Elle
Yeah I hear you, being ‘made’ to do stuff in the wrong mood isnt going to work. Being ‘made’ to want to is often a different matter. If you really are in the mood and you show it, you make it clear you want and would really get off on his submission, I suspect that more often than not his mood will lift and your obvious pleasure will bring him out of himself.
Not everyone is the same, would be interested to know if you think thats how he ticks?
M
December 14th, 2008 at 4:25 am
Oh nearly forgot, facesitting, oh yeah! If he isnt in the mood and you are, pop over to london and I’ll happily help you out
Heheh
December 14th, 2008 at 11:46 am
MyKey: If I feel he is resistant, it usually doesn’t work for me. I like the resistant because he’s shy and blushing, not the resistant because he’s pissy. So that’s when I usually back off. It’s supposed to be fun, after all…
December 15th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Yup thats the thing, if you feel that you are pushing yourself or arent enjoying it, then why bother. Totally agree with you.