I have been hesitant to be dominant with Boy Toy for the last few weeks. There’s been the recent head butting, but it’s not just that. He’s been undertaking new work projects and since he really wants this to succeed, he works a LOT. He’s so tired and stressed… How can I, in good conscience, make him submit to me? He probably needed the break.

But at the same time, when done well, it’s good for us. It refocuses him, for lack of a better word. I’m still not sure if the “timing” thing is all in my head, if he’d melt no matter when I do it. But I kinda think I need to follow my gut feeling on this one.

Some of you might be thinking, “Yeah but, it should be about what YOU want!” Maybe. But that’s not how I dominate him. For me, it’s all about the effect my actions have on him. If he hates it or gets angry, it won’t turn me on either.

All this to say, it had been a while. Read the rest of this entry »