Thing is, most of the worry is all in my head. I think if he got bored, he’d tell me, he wouldn’t just up and do something drastic. I probably made it sound a lot more dramatic than it is, with the title saying “under pressure”. It’s my own pressure, he certainly isn’t putting any on me, quite the contrary. He never says anything about “not enough kink” and if I say it, he’ll probably say that there’s plenty, actually.

But still, it seems to me kinky stuff has to come from me, so I feel the pressure of having to decide and enforce all the time. I think I’m gonna put the burden on him for a bit and tell him next kinky stuff has to come from HIM. Owner’s taking a break, dammit!

It’s okay, you know. Really.

But before he gets bored – and before you get worried sick over it – you need to sit him down and talk it over. And you need to think about whether you’re planning scenes because you want to, or because you prefer to. Or set up a monthly calendar. Sometimes schedules kill the fun of spontaneity, but sometimes schedules can give you something to look forward to.

I ended a sentence on a preposition. Hope that wasnt’ a protocol.

And while I don’t get why somebody would prefer to party with friends instead of snuggling up to a warm body, I’m biased because I’m one of those introvert types. After work and other social events, I’m tired of being the smiling, witty bon vivant and I need a quiet corner and a good book for a while.

I’m eagerly awaiting your post on protocol and rules

Dev: I love the guy, so yeah, definitely worth it. Hope you don’t mind my stealing your words, but while reading your blog, I’ve found that a lot of things you write, I could have written myself. Except that you seem to have it all clearer in your mind. So it helps me, really

Mykey: Good to know, it’s reassuring to see I’m not the only one this happens to And yeah, I understand his love/need of going out. I don’t want to stop it, except sometimes it feels like it’s more important for him than ME.

Wonder if it’s an introvert extrovert thing? People think interoverted people are quiet or shy but it’s not alwas so. I’ve heard a better definition. If you recharge your batteries with groups of people then your an extrovert, if you recharge them alone or just with partner then your more introverted. My wife and I are introverts. You wouldn’t know it when I am out as I tend to be loud and dive in there, but I need my off time.

I can understand breaking the week, especially if he works from home!

Scenes don’t always work out as planned. Other times, they don’t happen at all. You’re both human. You get tired, you have off days, you get sick, you get frazzled at work. As long as you can both deal with that (and it sounds like you can) you’re in good shape.

That pressure you feel to plan something original, fun, and sexy is similar to what most guys feel when planning a date. Not a lot of fun.

I’ve got a lot to say about protocol and rules, but I think I’ll write a post about that instead.

It’s probably just my PMS talking I’ve actually talked to a doctor about them damn hormones and he suggested a few things to try. Will see…

I never underestimate the tiring nature of an offfice job plus commute. My day is 12 hours long, I like my Fridays to be chilled too funnily enough.