I’ve been thinking, lately, that the old nature versus nurture debate can be applied to kink. If you read me regularly, you know that in the past few weeks, I’ve imposed some rules on my boy toy regarding his orgasms and surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly, if one knows Boy Toy well), this has brought out a very submissive side in him. He tells me that he is in an almost constant state of arousal, with his thoughts always turned towards me. He’s been dreaming almost every night of 24/7 scenarios where he surrenders completely to me. He talks of rules and training that I could impose on him, has mentioned that in his current state, he would accept to be owned and ruled by me forever. We’ve talked about moving in together and he brings up house rules… I think you get my drift.

Sometimes I wish I had psychology training, just to understand or study these reactions. I can’t help but wonder, where do they come from? Is Boy Toy submissive because it’s in his nature, he was born with some sort of “submissive” gene? Or is it because of how he was brought up? Read the rest of this entry »