My relationship with Boy Toy is a lot of fun and games, but it’s also real, normal life. We do spend fairly long periods of time leading a totally normal life, with the vanilla sex and nothing more. Boy Toy says it’s good to take a break from kink from time to time, and I agree. I can’t imagine being Little Miss Dominatrix all of the friggin’ time!

And then there’s play. This last year, for me, has been a lot about exploring, discovering, pushing boundaries, getting to know myself, as well as Boy Toy, better. More and more, I am finding these domination tendencies in me. Sometimes I realize that I get frustrated if Boy Toy doesn’t do as I wish, but at the same time, I don’t really do what it takes to enforce it. I need to make what I want clear, and punish him if he strays. Don’t look at me that way, he loves it!

Let me tell you about the most recent punishment I put him through, you’ll see.

I had made these new rules for him, and he broke one. Nothing serious, but I knew that if I didn’t do anything about it, he’d just keep on being a brat and pushing his limits, just to see how far I’d let him go. Basic male psychology. Or rather, basic Boy Toy psychology ;)

Anyway, the next day, he was going to a friend’s place to work on some stuff so I decided that as punishment, he would wear the ball cuff. It is fairly heavy and weighs him down, so he feels it constantly and knows who’s boss! But… He left in a hurry and forgot to put it on!

Later that day, we had some of my friends coming over to hang out before hitting the club. So I told him he’d have to wear the ball cuff to go out. Well, you probably guessed it already, he forgot again. Now that did it! How could he forget something I told him to do? I would have to punish him for that. And I had the perfect idea!

A few days later, I put my plan into motion. I told him to come over and bring the Remote control vibrating butt plug, with the Anal plug harness (the thing won’t stay in unless he wears the harness to hold it there). Needless to say, he was worried and admitted to feeling chicken about this. But I held my ground and told him he had to do this.

Before he arrived, I went to get stuff to make us supper, and a good bottle of red wine. I got back home, marinated the steaks in the wine, put candles in the bathroom and got into some clothes I knew he’d find sexy.

Boy Toy arrived late, something had come up. I was sitting in the living room, reading, and when he came in and started looking hesitant, I said “Are you gonna put it on, now?” He said “Now?” to which I replied, firmly, “Now.” He obediently walked into the bathroom and closed the door.

Several minutes later (it seems like complicated business, putting the butt plug in, what with the harness and all), he came out wearing nothing but the harness and the plug and just stood there piteously, looking shy (how cute!). I asked him for the remote control and the first thing I did was test it. His jump, blush and squirming were proof enough that it worked!

And then I set him to work. I had him draw me a bubble bath and light the candles. While I luxuriated in the hot, bubbly water, I had him cook us supper. And I told him “I’ll buzz you if I need you”, to which he blushed. I LOVE making him blush, it’s one of my favourite things.

I waited a few minutes before buzzing him, to give him time to start on supper. Then I took the remote control and pushed the “on” button. He arrived fairly quickly, saying “Yes, my owner?” (that’s his little pet name for me).

”Boy Toy, I need a glass of wine”. And then, as an afterthought: “Oh, you can pour yourself one, too”.

So I relaxed in the bath, with a nice glass of wine, while Boy Toy slaved in the kitchen. When I got out of the bath, the food wasn’t ready yet so I sat on the couch, reading. I’d buzz him every once in a while but he was getting used to it by then and he wouldn’t even react! At one point I sneaked up right behind him and pushed the button. Nothing. Humph, was that thing working? I had to check! So I grabbed his butt, and sure enough, I could feel it vibrating inside there, right through the cheek!

We had a great meal. He really is an awesome cook, I’m very lucky. By the time we sat down to eat, though, he told me the butt plug was starting to hurt him so I allowed him to take it out. I told him he still had to do as I say, though. And he still had to be naked.

Once we were done eating, I stripped naked and had him give me a massage. I was a bit disappointed that I couldn’t buzz him while he was massaging me, but it was still nice. He used massage oil I have here, which smells very good.

Afterwards, we just lay together in bed, naked, and I decided to experiment. I started running my fingers and nails lightly all over his chest, sometimes lightly grazing his penis and balls. He was getting aroused, but just a little. So I started talking. I wanted to see just how much the idea of me controlling and punishing him turned him on. My leg was pushed up right against his penis, and I could feel him react every time I said things like “I should punish you more” or “You won’t forget to do things I tell you to do, from now on, right?” Conclusion? Definite reaction on his part. Will use this against him in the future.

Finally, he was so worked up that he couldn’t resist any longer and he pulled me on top of him. I guided him in me and started moving up and down. He was so excited I could tell he was going to orgasm really fast. I said “Don’t come!” and he said “Ok… please stop moving then”. I slowed down for a few seconds… Then I had my first orgasm and it almost drove him over the edge. He asked me if he could come now, I said no but started moving even faster, knowing this would get him into trouble. Sure enough, he couldn’t take it anymore and as he came, I had my second orgasm.

Then, as I was still straddling him, I said, in as strict a tone I could muster, “I thought I told you not to come!?!” But I couldn’t keep the act up and I burst out laughing. How can I stay mad when it was such hot sex? I think I need to punish him more often.