It begins
Well, hello there, and welcome to Kink Unleashed. This is my first post, so I thought I’d tell you a little about me and what I want this blog to be. If you have read the “about” section, you know something about me already. You know that I’ve been exploring the exciting world of kink ever since I met my Boy Toy about a year ago. In that year, my perception of sex has changed tremendously and we thought it might be interesting for others out there to read about my journey, especially coming from a quite regular girl like me. Blogging seemed perfect because it can get down right personal and intimate yet remain anonymous.
And it HAS been a journey. I have lived more new sexual experiences in the last year than in the ten previous! This does make you realize many things… The first thing I realized, I think, is that I wasn’t as open-minded about sex as I thought I was. Approached differently, I probably would have never tried all these naughty things. But Boy Toy told me from the start what he was into. He wanted to be straight with me, and avoid my learning this about him from other people, too. He was also very respectful. He was so scared of pushing me into something I didn’t want that I almost had to trick him into sleeping with me, in the beginning. Ok, ok, I didn’t “trick” him, but I kind of had to push him into it a little. And we started with good old regular sex, of course.
But the fact of the matter was, I knew what he was into, and, as they say, curiosity killed the cat. We talked a lot about kink. And it was fun, it was playful and naughty. And it felt like we had this dirty little secret, it created this complicity between us.
Since then, I’ve done things I never thought I’d do. And it’s all in good fun. For me, that’s the important thing: we do it because we like it. We also have much respect for each other, and good communication. I don’t think I’d be into it otherwise.
So yes, I will share my experiences, my thoughts, my ideas, my feelings, with you. I will tell you all about how I got to where I am, and all about where I’m going, because this is just the beginning.
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2 Comments »
July 22nd, 2008 at 5:51 pm
Years ago I read an article from somebody who decided that he would get the “I’m kinky” talk out of the way right from the start, like by the 2nd or 3rd date. He’d discovered that by waiting until, say, six months into dating, then it wasn’t being fair if his partner was turned off and he decided to leave because of that; because, of course, if she wasn’t interested, then he would leave, because it would be even less fair down the road.
I don’t know if the 2nd date is the best time, but I do agree that early in the relationship is essential to get it out of the way. Glad to see that the two of you managed to talk about it without either of you being too embarrassed or shy.
July 22nd, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Yes, I do agree that if it’s important for someone, they should talk about it sooner rather than later.
In our case, Boy Toy told me he was into kink even before we ever dated. We met in a bar and remained acquaintances for about a year before we got together… Right from the start we talked online and it’s one of the first things he told me. See, because he’s been involved in the fetish/kink scene, people know this about him and he wanted to warn me: “hang out with me and people will associate you with me, they will think you are into that kind of stuff”. But that sure wasn’t enough to stop me from befriending him.
Later, when we started talking about having a fling (because he was so careful, we TALKED about it first haha), he did tell me this was an important element for him, in any serious relationship. Guess he just wanted me to know this, to sort of cover his ass in case nothing came of our fling
There were other personal reasons too why we decided, at first, that we would just be “fuck friends”.
Turns out though that he really knew how to appeal to my playfull side without overwhelming or scaring me, and I really got into it. A few months later he started calling me his girlfriend, and here we are now
Hmm, this got rather long, maybe I should have made a post